Changing Perspectives

Category: self-discovery

  • Learning to Give Myself What I Keep Asking From People

    Learning to Give Myself What I Keep Asking From People

    I’m learning how to give myself the validation, reassurance and celebration I used to look for from other people. But there’s a part of that growth that scares me: what happens when I get so good at meeting my own needs that I start questioning what relationships are actually adding to my life? This is…

  • I Don’t Have to Know What to Do Yet

    I Don’t Have to Know What to Do Yet

    We’re often taught that once we realize a relationship isn’t working, we’re supposed to fix it, discuss it, or leave. But what happens when you understand someone completely, no one is necessarily wrong, and you’re still hurt?

  • When Kindness Becomes Insurance for Other People’s Inconsistencies

    When Kindness Becomes Insurance for Other People’s Inconsistencies

    I’ve spent a lot of time turning my kindness into insurance for other people’s inconsistencies. But what happens when your dependability becomes the thing that keeps someone else from having to show up? A reflection on boundaries, emotional capacity, and learning to let the policy lapse.

  • The Muscle I’m Trying to Build

    The Muscle I’m Trying to Build

    Because understanding it doesn’t always mean I’m done feeling it. “Some days, I feel like I’m in the gym emotionally, trying to exercise muscles I didn’t even know existed.” I’ve been realizing lately that I’m an incredibly impatient healer. Not impatient with people. Impatient with pain. Impatient with uncertainty. Impatient with discomfort. If I understand…

  • The Boy Who Wanted to Be Chosen

    The Boy Who Wanted to Be Chosen

    What if our deepest desire isn’t to be attractive, but to be chosen? A personal reflection on trauma, self-worth, and learning to rewrite the stories I’ve carried about myself.