Changing Perspectives

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  • What It Is I Want?

    What It Is I Want?

    I am sitting in the park on my picnic blanket, beneath a tree, surrounded by silence. Not an uncomfortable silence. Not one that needs to be filled immediately, but the kind that gives my thoughts enough room to find me. And as I sit here, I find myself thinking about what it is I truly…

  • The Intimacy Switch: Why I Need Desire to Meet Me, Not Just See Me?

    The body that keeps score taught me how not to disappear when love arrives. I spent years searching for desire. Now at 30, I’m learning how not to lose myself when it finds me. Some of us don’t learn how to love by being met. We learn by reaching, and reaching again, into empty air.…

  • Defining Myself Beyond Gender Norms

    Trigger Warning: Discussions of sexual abuse and its effects It’s been a while, but life has been life-ing, lol. A few months ago, my sister and I were having a conversation about our family dynamic—the uniqueness of our siblings, our similarities, our differences, all that good stuff. At one point, she said something that caught…

  • Why did I get married?

    In my journey towards marriage, I found myself grappling with deeply ingrained societal and religious norms, questioning traditional views on commitment, and ultimately redefining my understanding of partnership. As I reflect on this decision, I delve into the complexities of navigating my conflicting beliefs and evolving perspectives, shedding light on the transformative process of redefining…

  • The Delusion of Contentment

    Isn’t it curious how effortlessly we deceive ourselves, weaving intricate narratives to convince us of our supposed contentment with life’s circumstances? I’m generalising, but is it just me? It’s not necessarily a conscious act to deceive yourself about the true state of life in that moment, but rather a default mechanism utilised to make your…

  • I’m just here for moral support…

    Support The Importance of Support Studies have shown that support is vital to the emotional well-being of an individual, providing a foundation of love and encouragement that fosters happiness and reduces stress. Yet, when support is lacking, feelings of isolation and low self-esteem can take root, casting a shadow over even the brightest moments of…

  • Sighhh, Good Grief

    What is Grief? Grief is the anguish experienced after significant loss, usually the death of a beloved person. Grief often includes physiological distress, separation anxiety, confusion, yearning, obsessive dwelling on the past, and apprehension about the future. Understanding Grief Beyond Death Growing up, I always thought that to grieve someone, they had to die. Luckily for…